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Wow, I can’t believe the last time I posted was almost five months ago!

Lots has happened since then, and the next few months are going to be super busy for this little family of three. I will try to keep everyone posted, and hopefully after the transition I can begin to blog more often!

What’s the transition you ask? Well for those of you who don’t know, The Other Half has recently gotten a new job! He starts in about 10 days. Wow – that seems so soon. We have been here in North Carolina for almost five years now. We thought we would stay here indefinitely, but recently we decided that we would try to move back towards home. Randomly, luckily – and much sooner than expected The Other Half (THO) found a job in Hershey, PA. He starts soon. Peanut and I will be sticking it out down here until the end of summer school though. I can’t leave my students at this time of year, and Summer School is REALLY good money! I can’t pass it up. We are super excited for this new chapter in our lives. We are glad to be moving closer to home, family and friends. I am ecstatic that Peanut will be able to grow up knowing her family, and not just seeing them a few times a year.

In addition to the move, we have decided that I am going to be a SAHM once we relocate. I am looking forward to this, but am also a little apprehensive. I have literally worked since I was 15 in at least some capacity (except for maternity leave when Peanut was born). I can’t wait to spend time with my daughter, and watch her learn and grow. She is growing so quickly, and I swear she gets funnier everyday! On the other hand, I feel as though I will be losing a bit of my independence. As I go through this transition, I am eager to see if the grass is really greener!

Gotta go! Lots to pack.

What transition are you and your family going through? How are you coping? Please share!

20110722-085009.jpgYears ago, I used to be a neat freak. Then I got married, got a few (or 4) animals, and now we have a little one. I guess I can’t really say that now. (I’ve been meaning to pick up the “mess” in the picture for about 4 days now.) Our home isn’t dirty, we just have stuff everywhere. Having an 8 month old really contributes to that!

Before Alayna arrived, I never could have imagined how much STUFF a baby really needs. Diapers, wipes, toys, clothes, bags, bottles, baby food, formula etc. etc. etc…….. Over the past few months baby stuff has taken over our house.

Seeing my half-naked, little one crawling around, in and out of her toy box, with the dog watching her is just a joy to watch each and every day. Our home is happy, full of love, and clearly lived in. I wouldn’t trade this for a perfect house with everything in its place ~ EVER!

Working Mom or Stay-at-Home-Mom (SAHM)?  Being a teacher, 75% of my time is spent as a working mom and the other 25% I get to stay home and enjoy time with my daughter.  I have the privilege of experiencing the advantages and disadvantages of both.

My first full week of my first summer with Alayna is coming to an end as I write this, and it has been an eye-opening experience to say the least.

I truly enjoy my job, and the reward that I get from the children makes all of the time and effort I put into it worth it.  However, it was extremely hard to send Alayna to day care at the very young age of 3 months.  Work was calling though, and so was our bank account.

Upon my return to work, people naturally started to ask who was taking care of Alayna.  When I told them that she was going to day care each day, sometimes I felt as though I got a condescending glare.  I almost started to feel guilty for sending her.  It could have been my own insecurity about taking her to day care, but I think everyone expected me to send her to a family member, or neighbor, or to stay home with her.  It just wasn’t the right decision for us.  Financially, we wouldn’t be able to keep living the way we enjoy living without my income, and we have no family who live close enough to watch her.

Day care has turned out to be a WONDERFUL place for both Alayna, and my husband and I.  The women that took care of her this year were absolutely amazing.  Of course, that made me feel completely comfortable leaving her there each day.  The first week, I called everyday at lunch to check on her, but after I got to know the staff I never had a worry.  I knew that she was in good hands, and though I thought about her often throughout each day, I was never concerned about her.  She was learning, playing and most importantly getting lots of love.  She learned so much, and got to play with plenty of children; some her age, some younger, and some older.  She earned the nicknames of “Smiley” and “Roly Poly,” which I enjoyed hearing stories about when I picked her up.

On the down side, my husband and I did miss some of her firsts.  She had been trying to crawl for weeks, and one day on her daily report, we got a note that said “Put me on the floor and watch.”  I asked Alayna’s teacher if she had crawled, and they wouldn’t divulge the secret, which was sweet.  I rushed home with her, and pulled her out of her car seat, set her down, and she was indeed, crawling!  It was somewhat disheartening to think that someone else had witnessed her first time accomplishing such an important milestone, but they handled it so nicely that I got over that feeling very quickly.  Even though I knew what had happened, the fact that they didn’t come right out and tell me made it seem like my husband and I were seeing her crawl for the first time.

Over the last few weeks as Summer approached, the excitement of being with Alayna all day long started building up.  I couldn’t wait for EOG’s to be over, report cards to be done, and my classroom to be cleaned up and checked out.  I was looking forward to sleeping in, going to the park, and pool, reading books, and watching her learn new and exciting things.  (Little did I know that my little angel did not have sleeping in on her agenda!)

The first two days were eye-openers.  I realized that I had no idea what Alayna’s daily schedule was.  She had just gotten over being sick.  She was being a fussy eater, and not being cooperative while going down for her naps.  I couldn’t get her to drink her bottles, and I was starting to feel like a terrible mother.  I didn’t know my own child’s schedule.  What kind of mother am I?  Not to mention, how can a 7 1/2 month old be ten times more exhausting that 18 third graders?  It just didn’t make sense.  Those first few nights, I went to bed tired, stressed and frustrated.  I decided that I needed to stop focusing on what I wanted Alayna’s schedule to be, and let her show me.

The next day I just went with it.  When she cried, I fed her.  When she got cranky and whiny, I put her down for a nap.  We played, read and laughed.  Since then, things have been much better.  She has even learned a few new things, and we are having a blast.  We went in the big pool for the first time yesterday with friends, and she loved it.

Even after just a week, I have a whole new appreciation for SAHM’s.  I feel extremely lucky that I get to spend time with Alayna in the summer.  I am thankful for that time together.  But, I am also thankful for my career.  I feel that being a mother has made me a better teacher, and being a teacher has made me a better mother.  I am glad to be lucky enough to experience the best of both worlds.



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